Dealing With a Death
The "Grief" essence is something you need to have on hand, flower essences never expire, and when you need it you need it and you won't be in any shape to go online and order some. There are a million other things that need your attention when someone dies. The Grief Combo is a blend of very comforting, shock releasing essences with some Onion in there to get the process started. I made it to be generic, all the pre-made combos are crafted to help the widest group of people possible, so this is good to pass around to friends and family after a death, but getting a custom combo after the first week or two is recommended.
Here are some essences for dealing with loss.
Onion flower essence will get you crying if you need to cry and stop you up if you can't quit, or if you're holding onto pain excessively and need to move on. It's great because you don't have to try and figure out whether you're reacting appropriately or not, its a no-brainer, it will balance you. It's very important to grieve fully and completely but we don't want to be big wussies and cry all the time. Onion will help you do what is right for you. Don't stop taking it too soon, think long term with Onion. Anger is normal, it's another step in the process so go ahead and be angry, but if it doesn't dissapate quickly, or you have trouble forgiving, you need to get on some Onion. Plantain or Sweet Cherry are some other choices.
Onion is your fastest route through the grieving process. It first helps you access your emotions, express them completely and them move it on out. It works both on present situations and past grief that has been bottled up. I would combine it with something comforting and "chicken soupy" like Chamomile, Lemon Balm or Moonbeam Coreopsis. Onion also helps children who are acting out or fearful after losing someone.
Teasel is for exhaustion that comes from intense emotion, it's ok, to be tired. Grieving properly disperses energy and leaves the body weak. You're unbinding and releasing attachments. It means you're doing a good job.
Black-eyed Susan helps if there is denial, it gives you the courage to face reality and the insight to understand it. Again, combine this with something soothing.
White Clover Losing someone close usually involves a lot of change, if you don't deal well this can help.
Bleeding Heart helps you let go, especially indicated in co-dependent relationship.
Black Currant is for all death-related fears, increases understanding about death and eases fears for those who do not believe in the everlasting spirit. Helpful for children who have a lot of questions regarding death or become preoccupied or fearful of dying.
Borage helps with the heaviness and weighed down feeling.
Chamomile is comforting after crying, keeps the knots out of your stomach
Dandelion helps release stored tension and grief that are stuck in the musculature.
* Honeysuckle* helps you to stop living in the past and move on
Hyssop gets rid of guilt
Love Lies Bleeding is for deep pain, suffering alone, inability to reach out to others.
Plantain helps you release bitterness and resentment towards family, friends, the deceased or others, helps you forgive.
Red Clover helps in dealing with charged family situations or emotional extremes in any group setting.
Star of Bethlehem because sometimes death is a shock, or the shock of hearing of impending death. We start grieving as soon as the bad news is delivered.
Sunflower helps resolve conflicts with your father.
Wild Rose -refusal to accept tragedy, withdrawal or numbness.
Sweet Chestnut is for extreme anguish, feeling cut off from God, or very alone.
White Chestnut is good if you keep going over the same stuff over and over again in your head, or obsessive thinking.
Hope this helps somebody, see you next month.
Here are some essences for dealing with loss.
Onion flower essence will get you crying if you need to cry and stop you up if you can't quit, or if you're holding onto pain excessively and need to move on. It's great because you don't have to try and figure out whether you're reacting appropriately or not, its a no-brainer, it will balance you. It's very important to grieve fully and completely but we don't want to be big wussies and cry all the time. Onion will help you do what is right for you. Don't stop taking it too soon, think long term with Onion. Anger is normal, it's another step in the process so go ahead and be angry, but if it doesn't dissapate quickly, or you have trouble forgiving, you need to get on some Onion. Plantain or Sweet Cherry are some other choices.
Onion is your fastest route through the grieving process. It first helps you access your emotions, express them completely and them move it on out. It works both on present situations and past grief that has been bottled up. I would combine it with something comforting and "chicken soupy" like Chamomile, Lemon Balm or Moonbeam Coreopsis. Onion also helps children who are acting out or fearful after losing someone.
Teasel is for exhaustion that comes from intense emotion, it's ok, to be tired. Grieving properly disperses energy and leaves the body weak. You're unbinding and releasing attachments. It means you're doing a good job.
Black-eyed Susan helps if there is denial, it gives you the courage to face reality and the insight to understand it. Again, combine this with something soothing.
White Clover Losing someone close usually involves a lot of change, if you don't deal well this can help.
Bleeding Heart helps you let go, especially indicated in co-dependent relationship.
Black Currant is for all death-related fears, increases understanding about death and eases fears for those who do not believe in the everlasting spirit. Helpful for children who have a lot of questions regarding death or become preoccupied or fearful of dying.
Borage helps with the heaviness and weighed down feeling.
Chamomile is comforting after crying, keeps the knots out of your stomach
Dandelion helps release stored tension and grief that are stuck in the musculature.
* Honeysuckle* helps you to stop living in the past and move on
Hyssop gets rid of guilt
Love Lies Bleeding is for deep pain, suffering alone, inability to reach out to others.
Plantain helps you release bitterness and resentment towards family, friends, the deceased or others, helps you forgive.
Red Clover helps in dealing with charged family situations or emotional extremes in any group setting.
Star of Bethlehem because sometimes death is a shock, or the shock of hearing of impending death. We start grieving as soon as the bad news is delivered.
Sunflower helps resolve conflicts with your father.
Wild Rose -refusal to accept tragedy, withdrawal or numbness.
Sweet Chestnut is for extreme anguish, feeling cut off from God, or very alone.
White Chestnut is good if you keep going over the same stuff over and over again in your head, or obsessive thinking.
Hope this helps somebody, see you next month.